Family Mediation FAQ’s
What is mediation?
Mediation is a neutral place for separating or divorcing parents to discuss the obstacles which still hold them together. Most commonly these are children, money and property. Mediation is not a relationship counselling service, but a way for former partners to amicably divide their assets and children’s access without needing to involve the time and expense of courts and judges who may not fully understand the situation.
How do I access mediation?
The system is self-referred. To discuss your mediation needs just call us. We offer pre-mediation advice for just the price of the phone call which will help you decide if mediation is suitable for you.
Do I need a solicitor with me during mediation?
No, a mediator is completely neutral. You are encouraged to seek legal advice through a solicitor in conjunction with your mediation sessions to ensure the terms you have reached are suitable for your requirements.
Does mediation affect my legal rights?
An agreement reached through mediation is not legally binding. It relies on both parties standing by the agreed terms. This does not affect your legal rights. If you prefer, the mediation agreement can be taken to a solicitor to be drawn up as a legal document. Alternatively the case can be put before the judge if mediation does not work for you.
But if it is not binding, why would my ex stick to it?
Agreements made voluntarily by both parties tend to reflect the needs of everybody, more so than court orders. Because both parties are involved in drawing up the agreement, both parties are more likely to stick to the result.
My ex is more persuasive than me. I’m worried that I’ll agree to something I regret later.
Mediators are specially trained to ensure both parties get their full say and are happy with the resulting agreement. They do not take sides, and will not pressure one party to agree to something they are not happy with. If property and financial matters are being discussed, the mediator will recommend each party contact their solicitor for full legal advice before the final agreement is signed.
Who comes to the meetings? Can I go by myself?
Usually there is an initial, information gathering meeting between the mediator and each party individually. After this, every meeting needs both yourself and your ex present in addition to the mediator. If you want an additional supporter at any of the meetings, your ex will need to agree to this.
What about the children?
It is very important that children’s opinions are also heard. This does not affect the parents rights. Children are not permitted to attend the mediation sessions, but have a discussion with a specially trained mediator to hear their perspective, and to help them cope with the current problems in their lives. The child decides what information can be shared back to the parents. Both parents need to agree to the children’s mediation session.
What’s the point, we’ll either never agree, or my ex just won’t turn up.
Even if previous attempts at resolution have failed, trained mediators can succeed due to their neutral and professional approach. If your ex fails to turn up, the mediator will write to them to explain the purpose of the mediation. Sometimes your ex may need an initial meeting by themselves to reassure them of the benefits of mediation.
How long does it take?
Each session takes between 60 and 90 minutes. The number of sessions depends on the amount of information that needs to be covered and the progress made at each meeting.
Is it confidential?
Yes. By law, you do have to disclose your full financial situation, but unless you choose to make the outcome a legally binding document, the mediation agreement remains confidential.