The family as an institution goes through various challenges, one of them being divorced. When parents separate, there is a high likelihood that the children will be turned against the parent they do not live. This is an act that significantly causes psychological damage to the child. The children develop feelings of fear and disrespect towards the parent. Long-term effects may be witnessed where the child will even be affected mentally.
Children who resist contact after a divorce are branded “alienated” whereas their parents are referred to as abusive and “alienated parents”. However, this perspective has brought in a different view. The reluctance of a child to have contact with anybody does not necessarily mean they were turned down by the parent they lived with against their non-resident parent. It is clear that they may have their own experiences that may lead to resisting any form of contact whatsoever.
Impact of abusive parents
Instances of child abuse may remain unnoticed. Moreover, the child may be taken away from the parents whose main aim was only to protect their children. A plan has been put in place to help abusive parents correct their behaviour, with the aid of intense therapy. This will greatly help the children live normal lives. Additionally, adverse effects of misdiagnosing parental alienation have to be put under consideration.
Parents are never aware of the damage they cause
In many cases, parents are never aware of the damages they cause their children. Parents think that they are separating or divorcing with good intentions. They are oblivious of the problems piling on the children and onto the adults they are growing out to be. Also, it will be very hard for the child to live with the non-resident parent since there is a negative picture painted about them. When the alienated parent is threatened with withdrawal of contact with the child, then the problem is only escalated, and the child still risks losing the touch of both parents.
Solving parental alienation
Getting the opinions of the affected child on the issue at hand. This is by far the best shot at solving parental alienation. Forcing parents into therapy sessions to solve their relationship issues will offer very little in ensuring this issue is curbed. Hence, counselling sessions carried out under duress would be very ineffective, and therapists will not accept to offer their services. Offering more permanent support and therapy to the child will go a long way at ensuring they heal from all that they went through. It will, in turn, aid them to grow into better individuals.
Restoring the attachment of a child to their parents lies on how the issues they underwent are handled and the therapy they are accorded. Both the parents and the child would be put at risk of losing each other’s touch when there is no one to give legal advice.