We Offer Therapeutic Family Mediation
In the United Kingdom, Family Mediators tend to espouse a ‘problem-solving approach.’ At the first meeting, issues are pinpointed for discussion. Using their experience and skills, mediators facilitate discussion in engaging their energies plus those of the parties participating in constructive negotiation.
All parties have a similar interest to bring matters to a satisfactory conclusion: the parties want to ‘move on.’ Typically, in that form of mediations, a line will be drawn under the past and the focus is mainly on the future. In that way, the chances of the mediation becoming veered into exchanges regarding past difficulties is minimised.
The guiding supposition is ‘what’s past is past, what’s done cannot be undone, so we have to move on’. Issues that have to be resolved following separation or divorce always have a practical aspect:
• How will we untangle our finances in a manner that allow us to go on providing for the kids?
• How can we organise our kid’s time to allow them to maintain the relationship they have with both parents?
• How can we share out ‘the marriage assets’ fairly between us then each one of us goes their separate ways?
Issues like these can be approached in a practical and pragmatic manner. Mediation helps both parties by maintaining a forum meant for discussion whereby the intervention of the mediators help to make sure that the problem-solving discussion that’s future-focused has the best possible probability of advancing constructively to the agreement.
Is Therapeutic Family Mediation Right for Me?
The approach of ‘problem–solving’ is the one that we typically take at Progressive Mediation. However, there’s always the risk that the mediation is going to in fact get diverted by the intervention of the powerful emotions that are always engaged when relationships come to an end.
Relationships, in some cases, will have become extremely damaged by the trust breakdown that it looks impossible working together in any kind of pragmatic manner on the problems that have to be addressed. Some of the cases like these might not be fit for mediation at all. In fact, in other cases, we have seen that a therapeutic approach that’s rather different to problem-solving can likely be effective.
Usually, therapeutic mediation takes the point of view that it’s the way separated couples are relating to each other that’s the key to solving the issues resulting in their break up. Instead of side-lining the past and choosing to focus on the future, the parties will be encouraged to speak and listen to the stories of each other. This way, it’s possible for both parties to get a better perception of the processes of the underlying relationship to which both of them have been subject.
A perspective can be obtained around the mediation table whereupon the meaning of whatever has occurred can be understood in ways relying less heavily upon the angry blame attribution, or even other personalised emotional content. Generally, the value of that is that it allows issues that looked hitherto insuperable to be perceived differently. That can be helpful when it comes to finding solutions that last for a long-term, which might otherwise appear unmanageable.
Therapeutic mediation can be especially suitable in cases in which kids might have been caught in the middle of a parental conflict in a way that risks impacting negatively on the long-term relationship of the kids with either one of the parents.
If we think therapeutic mediation is relevant, we’ll discuss it with you before the first session of mediation. Feel free to contact Free Family Mediation to resolve issues with kids, property and assets.